A Saturday Interruption: Hating haters isn’t being a hater

Since Maria’s computer problems kept us from enjoying a Thursday interruption, I thought I’d remind you of a tremendously uplifting, cathartic song that’s been very popular on my iPod lately. It embraces a truth that’s the opposite of what TV, fairy tales and some versions of religion have been telling us. We’re told that delivering anything but uber-tolerance to the intolerant constitutes “sinking to their level” and “being no better than they are.”

Bullshit. Their level is the removal of other people’s civil rights, or beating people up, or terrorizing people into yielding their own civil rights. As long as we don’t do any of that, it is not only okay but actually essential that we start being more hostile toward haters. Scorn those who scorn others without reason; shun those who shun others without reason; judge those who judge others without reason. Because what haters are is anti-social – anti-society. They don’t want to compromise to get the benefits of living in a cooperative society instead of an “everyone for herself” jungle. They want to get the benefits without the compromise. So take away some of the comforts of society by ostracizing them. There’s no need to do anything illegal or immoral. Just don’t tolerate their bullshit, and call it when you see it. That’s all!

And on that note, I give you Lily Allen.

Comments

  1. Casey says

    As someone who (as you know) was dealing with a “hater” who accused me of being “JUST AS BAD” and blah-blah-blah, this is very cathartic and good advice. :)

  2. Quib says

    Hahaha (this means sarcasm) Don’t you know that telling people they can’t be dehumanizing, hateful bastards is totally mean, and hurts their feelings? It’s so much more open minded to give them a chance to share and propagate their hideous, bigoted ideas and try and push them on other people than for you to defend against taking rights away from minorities.
    I mean, having any opinion, or anything even a little bit like an opinion, totally indebts you to giving space to opposition. That’s just fairness!
    Wouldn’t it be just ridiculous if NPR could just stand up for decency and fair treatment of women?
    Nooo, we have to let Phyllis FRICKIN’ Schlafely interrupt our morning episode of The Diane Rhem Show.

  3. Casey says

    Quib,

    Also, if you complain about a transphobic joke in a children’s movie (HELLO, THE LORAX!) then you’re making LGBTQ+ people look bad and single-handedly bringing down the LGBTQ+ Rights Movement, ‘cuz it’s just a movie! A cartoon movie at that, you silly uppity trans* peepul and allies~~! I HOPE YOU FEEL PROUD OF YOURSELF NOW I’M NOT GOING TO SUPPORT YOU, BTW I’M QUEER TOO SO THAT MEANS I CAN TOTALLY DISMISS YOUR FEELINGS HURRRRRR[/this happened to me on DA]

  4. says

    Quib,

    Which very much stems from the idea that bigotry is one worldview and anti-bigotry is another. But a “point of view” ceases to be a protected intellectual exercise when it formulates actions that actually harm people. It’s like how it’s fine for one person to be a Christian and another to be an atheist… until one group or the other starts trying to make it impossible for the other one to operate. And then THAT assessment gets distorted by the fact that people who aren’t used to being annoyed annoy very easily, so you get the privileged group (Christians, in this example) thinking that the atheists merely being atheists in public like they have nothing to be ashamed of is an attack on their worldview.

    Argh. Brain hurts.

  5. Alessandra says

    Thank you. Not that I don’t do it, but hearing someone else saying haters and bigots should be called on their bullshit in such limpid way is refreshing.

  6. The Other Anne says

    My sister got into an argument on facebook with a guy she was in dorms with, who made a status update making fun of a friend of his who was asked to be fb friends with “his gay barber,” quite clearly banking on the idea that a gay man wanting to befriend a straight man is SO FUNNY and AWKWARD FOR THAT POOR STRAIGHT MAN HAHAHA, so my sister called him on it (we were both planning what she’d say together) and he ended up getting SO upset that we were trying to tell him to stop being offensive, and he wasn’t joking about gay people, and to not “whitewash” things is to be bigoted, and it was just a joke and he (straight, white, cis male) jokes about everyone EQUALLY (equal opportunity joker, was I think his actual phrasing -_-;;;), etc. etc., ending on the idea that anything can be offensive to anyone so the people who point out offensive things are awful hypocrites who are terrible human beings or some shit like that.

    Needless to say, my sister stuck to her guns and we had a great time laughing at this mastery of horrendous behavior and a sad time knowing that he’s far from the exception. Too many people think that way, including way too many people I know and see on a regular basis. Gross! Anyway, thanks for this, it definitely came at a time when it was needed! :D

  7. says

    “…ending on the idea that anything can be offensive to anyone so the people who point out offensive things are awful hypocrites who are terrible human beings or some shit like that.”

    Just wanted to say this kind of statement (his, not yours) never fails to send me into a rage. YES, you’re right, lots of things can be offensive to different people. So your point is…you should never care about offending people? Just offend everybody? WTF is wrong with you?

    Besides which, not all offense is created equal…I mean, plenty of christians are offended by the idea that gay people might actually want to hug and kiss each other, but I don’t call that equivalent to to someone being called a racial slur.

  8. The Other Anne says

    “Besides which, not all offense is created equal…I mean, plenty of christians are offended by the idea that gay people might actually want to hug and kiss each other, but I don’t call that equivalent to to someone being called a racial slur.”

    This. Yes, I can be offended if someone makes fun of me for being a ginger. Does that make it equal to systemic oppression with offense directed towards me as a woman? Hell no. And it’s no where at all comparable to racism and homophobic “offenses”.

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