Just trashed a comment reading:
You don’t think ascribing a masculine gender to a system of oppression (“patriarchy”) contributes to antipathy towards men? Seriously? Start using “kyriarchy” and persuade your friends to do the same, and MAYBE you can achieve a form of feminism that is not overtly hateful. You haven’t yet.
Be serious…if anything makes women hate men, it’s the fact that human being don’t need a reason to hate someone with a different life experience than theirs, or someone who has different motivations which may run counter to their own. Women hate men because women are people, and people don’t need an excuse to hate.
in response to the If anything makes women hate men… post.
Here’s a rundown of why I trashed it.
1. It’s an order, and a hostile one at that.
2. It’s a “Feminism: You’re Doing It Wrong” rant
3. Note the random inclusion of Brand! New! JARGON!!!
4. It’s a “But what about ten menzzzzzzzzzz” jab (particularly ironic as a response to a post that’s specifically about women’s experiences with patriarchy…)
5. It’s a straw feminist argument as well, positing that OF COURSE feminists hate men, because they all still believe in PATRIARCHY, which totally ignores that WTF, the term “kyriarchy”‘s emergent from feminist conversations about religion, so duh, it’s a concept that feminists are thinking and writing about.
Just a point: My preference is to use “interlocking systems of oppression” (still jargon-ny but grok-able) or “matrix of oppression,” or any of the pretty fabulous words coined by anti-oppression scholars, activists, and writers who I admire. But, we’ve already talked about “kyriarchy” before — most particularly here – and its fucked up citational history, and its negation of pre-existing concepts developed by women of color scholars and activists. So, what I’d like to focus on in this post is the use of jargon to “discipline” (and here I’m making a clever pun in reference to discipline as in punish and discipline as in institutionalize into an academic project) the unpaid labor of a collective of women bloggers writing from a variety of intersectional identities.
I don’t especially want to debate the utility of kyriarchy as a term. I think it’s pretty fail, but honestly I’m more astonished at the gall of a commentator claiming anti-oppression credentials to demand the re-introduction of jargon… then again, considering the kerfluffle over Jessica Yee’s anthology a few months ago, I probably shouldn’t be.