Big Brother 8

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It might seem a little melodramatic, but I think Big Brother this season is an excellent example of the 5 stages of grief in a compressed, reality tv show time frame:

1. Denial- This cannot be happening. How did they even find this many truly awful people?
2. Anger- This is horrible, and I kind of want to smack everyone involved.
3. Bargaining- Please, just don’t let Dick or Daniele win. Please. I’ll stop expecting anyone with a shred of decency to be on this show, I promise.
4. Depression- If the producers don’t want to do anything, what can you do?
5. Acceptance- Daniele’s going to win, and no one can stop it. Whatever. When’s Survivor coming back?

It looks like the powers that be over at Big Brother this year will be getting their wish- it’s been fairly apparent since the beginning that they were pushing for a Dick/Daniele final two, and it seems that everything’s in order to make that happen. So rather than wait until the inevitable happens, I thought I’d beat the rush and go on the record now with a rather startling conclusion I’ve come to: Dick isn’t the most awful person on the show this season. Daniele is.

No, Dick hasn’t corrected his behavior, and Daniele has yet to suggest anyone should be raped, but she’s still surpassed him in terms of my loathing. Because the more that I see, the more I become convinced that he’s actually incapable of behaving in any other way, whereas she has brief moments of clarity that make it clear that she can and chooses to be horrible because it gets her what she wants with little in the way of consequences. I hate bullies, but there’s a group that’s worse than that- the people who encourage the bullies and get them to do their dirty work and then complain that people are punishing them for the bully’s behavior just because they endorsed and benefited from it. The nerve of those people, expecting her to be appalled by abusive disgusting behavior just because it’s, you know, abusive and disgusting.

Which is exactly what Daniele’s been doing all season. She’s been trying to make people feel sorry for her because of her father (having met Dick, how could they not?) and then running to complain to him about how mean people are to her, knowing that he’ll run off to target his abuse on them. Which is awful, but still unfortunately human- the problem in my opinion is that she’s probably going to be rewarded for this behavior.

I’m usually one of the people who thinks reality shows aren’t rigged in general, but this season of this show has been so horribly skewed in both its editing and the totally-not-random selection of which houseguests have been punished for which rule-breaking actions that I can’t for a second believe that they haven’t been manipulating the conclusion from the start. For some reason, this is what the people running the show wanted to try for- a winner who’s young/thin/blonde and fulfills a dozen different horrible stereotypes of women. Someone who laughed in the face of the Head of Household during the nomination ceremony on Sunday, but would scream and cry and pout like a toddler if anyone dared to do that to her. Who claims to have been horribly handicapped and put upon because of her father, while taking advantage of everything that does for her- basically giving her two votes to everyone else’s one, someone who’s taken her off the block for elimination, and being one of only two people in the house who had an ally they could be absolutely certain wouldn’t stab them in the back- and refuses to admit to those advantages, even when no one else is listening.

For some reason, this is the type of person the producers decided to warp the game for to get into the final two. The only reasons I can come up with are that they either think this is a good thing, they think this is the best they can hope for from a female winner, or they find it reassuring to see a girl this horrible on television because she’s easy to categorize and isn’t a threat to anyone’s sense of superiority. Are there any other options I’ve missed? Because I don’t think there even is a best-case scenario there.

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  1. Jennifer Kesler says

    The only reasons I can come up with are that they either think this is a good thing, they think this is the best they can hope for from a female winner, or they find it reassuring to see a girl this horrible on television because she’s easy to categorize and isn’t a threat to anyone’s sense of superiority. Are there any other options I’ve missed?

    How about they believe their audience loves to hate women?

    If there were any way to find out the truth, I’d bet you huge sums that Dick is compulsively abusive (literally can’t help himself), Daniele took the brunt of it as a kid, and her method of coping was to find proxy victims to serve up to him. Which is, you know, sadly understandable coming from an abused child. But once you become an adult, it’s on you not to continue the cycle of abuse. And that sounds like from your description exactly what she’s doing.

  2. MaggieCat says

    I do think that’s a part of it, although Daniele and her brother were actually raised by their grandmother, not Dick. She would have seen/received a certain amount of this treatment whenever they did have contact.

    I used to feel a certain amount of sympathy for her for simply being related to him, but she pretty much ruined that by acting like the most entitled person on the face of the planet and smirking through his abuse of everyone and anyone. From what I’ve seen she’s been relying on the sympathy angle of “my dad’s soooo awful” as an excuse for her own horrible behavior for years, and seems to be stuck in adolescence. At some point you have to grow up a little and take responsibility for your own behavior, and she’s done neither.

    How about they believe their audience loves to hate women?

    I didn’t think of that one at the time, but it would certainly fall in line with some of the previous treatment of women on this show.

  3. Jennifer Kesler says

    Which grandmother, I wonder? If it was Dick’s mom, she could be at least partially responsible for how Dick turned out.

    I think you and I are basically saying the same thing. Whatever the reasons, Dick is abusive. Daniele pimps victims to him, thus continuing the cycle of abuse. Once a victim chooses to perpetuate the cycle instead of breaking it, she becomes an abuser, too.

  4. says

    I was so sad when I heard that Daniele go the POV that would send Jameka home. She was so deserving of the prize. Of course I was an Eric/Jessica fan all along.

    I’ll be interested to see if the jury votes personally or strategically. And even though I don’t care for Zach I hope he’s in the final two.

  5. MaggieCat says

    These juries always vote personally. If they voted strategically they wouldn’t have a jury house- BB only started sequestering the jury members after season 3, when Danielle played an excellent game but was extremely imprudent about what she said in the diary room. Everyone was so mad at her after they’d had the opportunity to go home and watch their tapes that they gave the money to Lisa out of spite. The question is how badly has Zach’s general social ineptness hurt him with the voters. Assuming he even makes it to the final two, which sadly looks like a long shot to me.

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