Why don’t we see more women on TV who have a lot of sex because they really like it?
When TV women sleep around, it’s almost invariably in order to get something (money, power, revenge on his wife, etc.) or because she has psychological problems that cause her to chase after men. When TV men sleep around, it’s usually because they’re horny.
Why can’t we see more women who have sex for fun? Because it might encourage women to think sex ought to be fun, and maybe if a guy doesn’t make it fun he needs to be replaced? Or because male writers just don’t grasp that women can enjoy sex because no woman who’s been with them ever did?
Or because we have this Madonna-Whore complex, and the only way for a woman to be both is to put out, but only for someone else’s benefit?
Maybe the target demographic audience of young men is just jaw-droppingly insecure, and the very thought of being expected to please a woman in bed gives them cold sweats.
Despite all the porn and stuff out there, which clouds the issue of human sexuality more than clarifies it, there’s still a lot of mystery about female enjoyment of sex – even for the women. For boys, it’s fairly obvious what’s going on down there. For girls, it isn’t always. And we don’t talk about it. I literally fell off the couch one time in 2000 when CNN reported, right out loud in the middle of the afternoon withour parental warnings, that “women can have two types of orgasms: clitoral or vaginal”. I didn’t know CNN knew that. Really.
I mean, CNN knows all about Viagra and erectile dysfunction. Those aren’t filthy, dirty, taboo subjects. But when’s the last time you heard a report on women who suffer from an inability to achieve vaginal lubrication? Either that’s just not important to us as a nation (but erections are), or it’s naughty to discuss (while erections aren’t).
Some cultures have historically been so freaked out by the idea of women enjoying sex that they invented female genital mutilation (more euphemistically known as female circumsicion) many centuries ago to make sure that wouldn’t happen, and still practice it in some Islamic countries. Interestingly, this is more of a cultural thing than a religious thing, as Islam tends to recognize that, you know, maybe if the creator gave women an organ that has no purpose other than sexual pleasure, He intended her to experience sexual pleasure.
You know when your culture falls behind a fairly fundamentalist religion, you’re deep in the dark.
If the target young male demographic really is in denial about healthy-minded women liking sex and pursuing it for fun or sport, maybe it’s that they regard sex like they regard football, beer, or farting: fun reserved for guys. You let a girl in on your football, beer and farting party, and it’s a toss-up which will be worse: whether she starts decorating with flowers and pink stuff, or jumps on the couch with you to cheer at the game, drink beer and fart herself. It’s just not how we want to see women, is it? It’s not… dainty, and clean, and cute.
Come to think of it, those are three words you will never see applied to sex, either.