Choose Three Women You’d Support

Thanks to Sunless Nick for this one!

This is linked to the Choose Your Female Posse challenge; this time, choose three women you would support. These are women who have been the heart and soul of the group, often keeping it together emotionally/spiritually/financially (or any combination) and don’t get credit for it. These are women you want to take aside and say ‘hey, I know you have a lot on your plate, lean on me for support for a while.

My picks:

Tara Mclay from Buffy. She basically existed to further Willow’s storyline as a witch and a lesbian. She did nothing but support and love Wilow for the better part of three years. When Willow’s addiction to magic finally forced Tara to leave her, she became a very minor character to how the rest of the Scoobys responded to Willow’s addiction. Oh, and just when it looked like Willow was on the road to recovery and she and Tara were going to reunite… a bullet meant for Buffy gets her. Which, of course, is only a means to Willow’s decend into rage-and-grief-fuelled madness. And for all that – she never complained that she got the bum end of the deal in loving Willow. Of course, I can’t exactly blame Amber Benson for not wanting to return as Tara-as-The-First after the way Tara was treated…

Hermione Granger from Harry Potter. She works out who’s responsible, how they did it and how to defeat them faster than anyone else. And Harry prolongs the conflict by ignoring her and insisting ‘No! Snape did it!’. Why didn’t Rowling call this Hermione Granger and the – oh, wait, because it would have been over in half a book. And yet Harry gets all the credit. She totes deserves a bestie who is all ‘Harry? What did he do? You’re the real hero.’

Scarlett O’Hara from Gone With the Wind. OK, I know this is going to be a controversial one, but… she spends the last two-thirds of the book supporting a dozen family members who barely recognise her contribution, let alone thank her or assist her. And when she’s willing to hussle and get out there and make money, she’s the object of scandal – no less by the very relatives who depend on her to keep a roof over their heads yet won’t plough the fields with her. Whenever I read the book, I want to be out there in the fields picking cotton with her, or in the dining room, sipping sherry, listening admiringly as she talks about the money she made today and the stupid Yankees she swindled it out of.

Your picks?


  1. says

    Cassandra Cain (DC Comics, Batgirl/Black Bat) Childhood abuse survivor, forced into killing someone and understanding what they were going through as they died. Homeless for years before becoming Batgirl. Kept at arms length by much of the family due to her unique linguistic challenges. Abandoned after being mind-controlled. Left alone in her grief when her adoptive father ‘died’. Sent to the other side of the world when he returned. Cass never gets the credit she is due, and is frequently written off or written poorly as a stick-on villain. She’s apparently in the DCnU, but we never get to actually see her on panel.

    Tara Chace (Queen and Country) Oh, she gets all the credit she needs for being a top rate, world class Minder, but no one in the books really works as an effective support network for all the intense crap she is put through, both directly on the job and in terms of the politics around her. She needs someone at home to make her a cup of tea, watch her daughter and watch how much whiskey she drinks. I’d be that person.

    Rachel (Animorphs) Well, actually, I’d like to add Cassie and the rest of the kids to that. Individually. These are teenagers, fighting an evil that sometimes gives me nightmares at 31, without the ability to trust a single person outside their group, including parents. Rachel in particular is frequently judged and cast out from the group because – in her own words – while the others do the right thing, she does the necessary thing. Rachel’s story is one of watching her become a hardened, focused warrior, and it scares her. I’d just like to give her a blanket and hot soup and tell her that’s it’s right, and a good soldier is not a bad person.

  2. says

    When I first thought about this one, I was thinking of Tara Thornton from True Blood. And she’s still my first pick. From the very beginning of the series, she’s been its foremost punching bag – abused terribly in every season, and many of those who supposedly love her not even seeming to care – including her so-called best friend, who summons up far more compassion for those who’ve hurt her. She has one of the world’s most awesome cousins, and a couple of other people who give a genuine crap about her. But I’d so love to let her know there’s one more.

    Lyta Alexander from Babylon 5, specifically circa season 4 and early season 5. She helps save the galaxy, then gets kicked to the kerb. She has to help tear down everything she’s dedicated her life to (twice over) and no one asks how she’s doing. She’s expected to be part of the main command structure when it comes to getting her to do stuff, but not when it comes to being paid or looked after. Eventually, she gets sucked into a cult because they’re the only people who consistently act like she’s worth something. It would have been nice to tell her that earlier. Worse stuff happens to other characters, but they also get more acknowledgment of it.

    I’ll get back to you about my third.

    Oh, how about “your three mentors” and “your three spirit guides” (ok, for the latter, ghostly characters aren’t all that common, but there will be women who have died in-story who would subsequently make good spirit guides).

  3. Maartje says

    Arisawa Tatsuki from Bleach- basically she’s the girl who’s left behind after protecting the protagonists all their lives. But once they get super powers they’re all: sorry, for your own good I won’t be friends with you anymore but I won’t tell you why and oh wait I’ve forgotten you already.

    Moya from Farscape- she gets taken for granted a LOT even though she takes awful risks and pushes herself to the very limit and takes care of everyone.

    Astrid from Fringe- I’m just now watching the series (up to the first ep of season 2) and she’s awesome, completely underapreciated and has a VERY varied set of tasks which she all just quietly accomplishes.

  4. Patrick McGraw says

    Shayera Hol from Justice League/Justice League Unlimited. After dedicating years of her life far from home on a mission for her people, she is forced to betray close friends and loved ones. Then she has to choose between betraying her own people or allowing them to commit planetary-scale xenocide on the world she has spent the last two years protecting. When she prevents the xenocide, she is hated as a traitor by both her own people and those she saved, including several of her former teammates. Then she mercy-kills a friend who had been turned into a mindless monster. Through all this, she keeps doing the right thing and saving people whether or not they will thank her for it.

    Kuchiki Rukia from Bleach. Has to kill her possessed C.O. that she had a crush on, sees his wife (whom she idolized) murdered. When she breaks the law in order to save people, her own brother arrests her. She’s then set to be executed for it as part of the villain’s plot, and her brother not only doesn’t try to help her, he actively fights against her rescuers because he considers upholding the rules to be more important than preventing his sister from being unjustly executed. When one of her best friends is kidnapped, the rest of her friends don’t even let her in on the rescue plan.

    Jaina Proudmoore from World of Warcraft has been one of the most important leaders in bringing the Alliance and the Horde together to fight evils that threaten them both – including her fiance who went from hero to mass-murdering king of the undead. Then she is pretty much pushed aside by the Alliance’s leader Varian Wrynn, who doesn’t trust her because she is close friends with the Horde’s leader Thrall, and she might get in the way of the war with the Horde that he wants so much.

  5. M.C. says

    Brienn of Tarth from A Song of Ice and Fire. Those books are about a world where there are no knights in shining armor. And then Briennen shows up and she’s the perfect legendary knight in shining armor with every fiber of her being but everybody keeps telling her that she needs to get back into the kitchen because lol women can’t be heroes. She does meet a few people who like and support her, but they all end up dieing horribly and Brienne blames herself for not being able to save them because she’s just too good for this world. I basically spent all of her chapters wanting to give her hugs and kicking everybody in the shin who ever insulted her.

    Aerin from The Hero And The Crown. She spent all of her childhood being told that she’s worthless because she’s a half-blood and yet she became a great hero who repeatedly risked her life to save the very people who were so mean to her.

    Aliena from The Pillars of the Earth: another example of “alot of bad things happening to a good person”. Yet she never gave up fighting – she was so strong not only for herself but also for her brother (and then her son). She definitely deserved the happy ending she got. But before that, when she was so lonely and sad, I would have liked to be there for her.

  6. Anna M says

    Jean Grey from the X-men. Saved them and the world countless times but is now lost/dead and everyone but her gets to be resurrected. Was possessed/driven mad by the Phoenix force, cheated on by her husband and many other bad things happened to her.

    Psylocke from the X-men-had her eyes gouged out, died and was resurrected into a new body..that’s just the start. Is still a kickass heroine. I’d like to tell her she’s awesome.

    Kara Thrace/Starbuck from Battlestar Galatica-died and came back, lost her love and regained him. Had a crappy childhood. Through it all she remained a fighter.

  7. SunlessNick says

    I haven’t picked a third, yet. I think I’d go for Merlyn Temple from American Gothic. Murdered in the first episode – after years of PTSD had left her unable to function in normal life – and then stuck with being the spirit guide to her brother when she’s had little life of her own, and doing what she can to guard souls in the rest of the town. It’s not like everyone piles on her – most people don’t know she exists at all, and the few who do love or respect her. But she has a lot of sudden responsibility, and no one at all to talk to who’s not part and parcel of it. So it would be nice to give her that.

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