I recently wrote a post to explain the difference between street harassment and sincere flirtation. Unthinkingly, I wrote it to an audience of women. I guess I unconsciously assumed any man who would yell sexual remarks at strange women would not come to this site in an attempt to figure out why “that uptight bitch” [...]

From CNN: Catcalling: creepy or a compliment?
Naturally, in the above linked article, the woman who argues it’s flattering to be catcalled and looked up and down when she walks on the street is from… wait for it… you can guess this… Los Angeles. (If I start a “help Beta escape from Los Angeles” fund, would [...]

One of the most vile phrases I have ever heard is “high maintenance” in reference to a woman. Not just because it’s a term better suited to automobiles (something else hetero men like to climb into and control). Not just because it puts a value on the amount of work men have to do to [...]

Culture teaches us to look at the world with a skewed perspective. As an American kid, I was taught that this is the easiest country in the world and everyone, bar none, wants to immigrate here. I was also taught that white, heterosexual men like Ben Franklin were responsible for, oh, everything humanity had achieved [...]

I talked about Spice Girls feminism a while ago; now I’ve decided to label another form of feminism that I disagree with. I’m calling it Narcissist Feminism.
Narcissist Feminists - let’s call them NF’s - are, so far in my experience, white heterosexual middle class women who experience feminism only as a friction occurring between themselves [...]

I was out for a walk around the neighborhood last night, which meant my brain was in autopilot mode, getting a rare rest. I passed a couple of male gardeners working in someone’s yard, and they took a good long look at me, head to toe. I ignored them. And the following thoughts passed through [...]

Every now and then someone asks whether it’s worse to be a woman or a person of color. Usually, they phrase it just that way, defining the whole term “woman” to mean “white woman”, which gives you a great opportunity to shut down the discussion by pointing out that they just ignored the existence of [...]

One of the fundamental promises of patriarchy is that if women will just surrender themselves to men, men will protect them. There are two problems with this promise. The first is that it rarely gets kept because what men are protecting women from is generally other men, and there’s no screening process to “other” men [...]

A while ago, I wrote that this site would no longer allow gender essentialism and evolutionary biology arguments in comments. People who’d seen these arguments (ab)used again and again to silence people understood why I was doing that. But other people since have had questions, and I want to address that.
First, here’s the thread that [...]

First I read Purtek and followed her links. I pored over the article and comments on Tekanji’s blog. Then Purtek posted again, and led me to this glorious critique. I can’t add much to the criticisms they’ve leveled at the Yes Means Yes call for submissions, but there are a few things I want to [...]