How does a show whose eponymous purpose is to be about mother/daughter relationships become all about romance? I can understand and appreciate it, to some extent, since Rory’s show age means that both she and her single mom are at a point in their lives where romantic relationships are taking on a new importance. Rory was 16 when the show started, and is in her early 20s now, which makes that natural for her for obvious reasons, and Lorelai has a freedom when her daughter is that old and independent that she hadn’t had up to that point. I was genuinely hopeful when Lorelai and Luke got together after years of TV cliché will-they-or-won’t-they that this show wouldn’t jump the shark, but the tension manufactured by the fact that all of a sudden, neither of them seemed able to have any kind of a personality or awareness of reality has quashed that hope. Our independent Lorelai who never shuts up no longer had any backbone or willingness to communicate to Luke that the way he was treating her was unacceptable, not to mention nonsensical.
The outright insanity of insisting that Lorelai had to play out a marriage with Christopher has succeeded in driving me round the bend. How does she get this idea into her head that they need to see, once and for all, if they were “meant to be”, even taking into account their affection for one another and inevitable lifelong bond? They never invoke the dreaded “soulmates” word, but it’s in the subtext. Christopher was an absentee father to Rory, and has only ever temporarily shown willingness to take responsibility for his actions and grow up. The spinectomy Lorelai had while she was dating Luke was not corrected during her relationship with Christopher this season, as he behaved selfishly, pushily and with inappropriate jealousy, and she continually apologized to him for causing it. A good kayak, of the sort mentioned in my last post, would have seen that while Chris would always be Rory’s father, and while she may wish the best for him, it would never be best for her to try to hammer out a real marriage with him, not just in spite of their history but because of the amount of baggage it entails. First of all, it was poorly written and I never had an understanding of what either character was really feeling, and second, it seemed to be this implicit support for the idea that a nuclear family is inherently desirable, which goes, again, directly counter to what I thought was the point of the show.
Rory’s had her own blind spot that seems to be right where her spine would belong in some situations, but both of the lead characters’ relationships may be going in a direction now that suggests that the show is getting that train back on the rails. Like the new executive producers read the mission statement, finally. Oh, but we still have to deal with “the ugly”.