Whenever we get much traffic from a link on a site that’s not about media and gender, we get accused of having our minds already made up, of having an agenda, of not being willing to consider the other side, which generally boils down to that misogyny is deserved in some cases, or that we’re seeing misogyny where it isn’t, or that we’re just as sexist as the misogynists. I’m posting this so in future we can simply link people to this article and avoid confusion:
Well, yeah. An opinion is a conclusion that rules out other, mutually exclusive conclusions. A certain degree of closed-mindedness must follow the formation of an opinion. It’s earlier in the process of forming that opinion that the open mind is helpful.
See, at some point, we all thought misogyny was kind of okay, or just a natural part of life, or something like that. That’s the default point of view in our society. But at some point, we ran into events which made us question these assumptions. Accordingly, we opened our minds, did some further thinking, and came to conclusions such as these:
- Oh, some of the stuff I thought wasn’t misogynistic actually is.
- Huh, maybe misogyny is never deserved. Like, even when a particular woman is really horrid, the mistreatment of all women still isn’t justified.
- It’s not sexist to note that men as a group often benefit from misogyny, even when many individual men are not being misogynistic themselves.
This is not a site for people who are trying to decide whether misogyny is a problem they care about (those people are welcome, but the site is not about them). Nor is it a site for people who have decided there isn’t misogyny, or that there is misogyny, but it’s just how things are/can’t be fixed. There are plenty of sites where those opinions are welcome. This is a site for people who agree there are problematic gender politics happening, and who want a place to discuss it where they will not get lectured about why they should either conform to the status quo or shut up. That’s why comments informing us that the status quo is right or that we should shut up don’t interest us.
That, and a fact that may shock you: we’ve heard it all before. Yes, it’s true! Intelligent and thoughtful as some of our pro-misogyny and misogyny-apologist commenters appear to be, and I’m not being sarcastic there, they’re actually not saying anything new. History is replete with studious thinkers making arguments about how women are inferior to men, less human than men, evil tempters of men, soulless creatures fit only for breeding. It’s hard to imagine some random person visiting a website stating the case better than the Bible, Samuel Butler or Martin Luther.
If you’ve been directed to this post, it’s to let you know: thanks, but we’ve already heard everything you’re saying hundreds of times before, and considered it all carefully, and rejected it when we formed our opinions. We had open minds at the appropriate time, but now we’ve made our minds up.