Oscar’s Funniest Moment

Two posts in one day! No one faint.

Isn’t this funny?

Yes, sexual harassment is hifuckinglarious. I simply couldn’t stop chuckling when Gary Busey felt up Jennifer Garner, and her uneasiness afterward? Priceless. Good times, good times. Pardon both the language and the sarcasm.

I cannot adequately describe how angry this little clip makes me. Am I just overly sensitive to this topic? Please, someone tell me I’m not crazy for finding this offensive and absolutely not funny in the slightest.

Comments

  1. says

    I don’t think Garner thought it was funny – she struck me as either pissed or spooked or both. I don’t think you’re being oversensitive at all.

    But I do think that if you’re a woman and you want to work in Hollywood, you don’t make a big deal about “boys will be boys”, which is defined as men doing pretty much whatever. I remember when Ahnold was running for governor, and women came out trying to talk about his groping, harassment and near-rapist behavior. Everyone wanted to dismiss them with the Anita Hill argument: “Why didn’t you come forward sooner?”

    I didn’t have to ask. No one who’s worked around film sets had to ask. Think about it: how many known sexual harassers or rapists are there among the Hollywood elite? Now, taking the conservative 4.5% estimate that the only study ever done to find out how many men are rapists, and how many rapists are there likely to be actually? Then on top of that you have an unknown number of chronic sexual harassers which I would guess is at least another 5%. (And I’m erring on the side of being superconservative.)

    That’s a lot of men not getting reported for sexual harassment and even rape.

  2. sbg says

    I’m not surprised at all by Busey’s behavior – I figured he was nutso. It’s no excuse, of course. What appalled me more was the incident making the “funniest moments” highlight. I simply can’t imagine how Garner’s reaction could be interpreted as amused.

    I said this on my LJ, but having been pretty much assaulted on a dance floor only to have nearly every single person look at me as if I were the one responsible for a man dry humping and trying to stick his tongue down my throat, the “boys will be boys, don’t talk about it” tends to set me off. Along with the multitude of other “reasons” sexual harassment isn’t really harassment.

  3. says

    No, I agree there was nothing funny about it.

    I still believe: if someone touches you in a way you don’t want to be touched, you’re entitled to touch them in a way they don’t want to be touched.

  4. scarlett says

    I couldn’t get the video, but since we’re on the subject – anyoone care to write about the scriptwriter of Juno and the endless stripper jokes? I have something in mind but I figured Betacandy could write it better, given she probably understands Hollywood better than any of us.

  5. sbg says

    I’m not aware of the stripper commentary surrounding Diablo Cody…

    I will say that it has long bothered me that that the Best Actress award goes far, far earlier than the Best Actor. Why is one considered one of the “big ones” and the other deemed less important?

  6. sbg says

    Ah. I read to “Minneapolis, which is incredibly boring” and stopped. Because I love Minneapolis and hate when people say things like this. It’s a lovely town with a thriving music and arts scene. ;)

  7. harlemjd says

    sbg – yeah, I’ve pretty much stopped going dancing (except for swing or latin nights where there are partners and steps and frickin personal space) because of dry-humping strangers and people thinking I was nuts for objecting to it. Did find one line that always got rid of them though…

    “My dog used to do that. It’s why we cut his balls off.”

  8. says

    Ug, watching her expression afterwards and how upset she looked made me feel sick to my stomach.

    But what do I know? I’m just a girl. *eyeroll*

  9. scarlett says

    In regards to Diablo Cody, of the half a dozen stories I read on a few different websites, EVERY SINGLE STORY made a comment about ‘the little stripped that could’ (I think one reporter actually called her that). It pissed me off ‘cos apparantly, you can be a woman and win an Oscar and Hollywood STILL doesn’t respect you :(

  10. sbg says

    “My dog used to do that. It’s why we cut his balls off.”

    LOL.

    Seriously, though, I enjoyed dancing and drinking and music, but I always really hated the meat market feel of bars. Call me uptight, but I like to approve who dry humps me. ;) I can’t tell you how many times I was bodily pulled out onto the dance floor. At my SIL’s bachelorette party, I was with the women one second and flying through the air the next.

    Apparently the caveman who snagged me thought, “Pretty. Oog. Must have.”

  11. sbg says

    Ug, watching her expression afterwards and how upset she looked made me feel sick to my stomach.

    I do have to give her points for drawing attention to her unhappy reaction – the “interviewer” was prepared to pretend she hadn’t been assaulted right in front of him.

  12. sbg says

    In regards to Diablo Cody, of the half a dozen stories I read on a few different websites, EVERY SINGLE STORY made a comment about ‘the little stripper that could’ (I think one reporter actually called her that). It pissed me off ‘cos apparantly, you can be a woman and win an Oscar and Hollywood STILL doesn’t respect you

    Quite honestly, it’s not even just a lack of respect as a human being. She’s being, pardon the pun, stripped of her humanity by being labeled that way. She’s not a person, she’s a stripper. It’s as if they’re talking about her like she’s a pepper shaker.

    Like, what the fuck difference does it make if she stripped once upon a time? Does this mean it’s a complete miracle she can string a coherent sentence together, let alone write a nominated screenplay? Strippers are objects without brains, apparently.

  13. says

    SBG, I thought Garner was going as far as a woman who wants further jobs in Hollywood safely can in calling Busey on his behavior.

    Hollywood is run by 11 year old boys in men’s bodies who have phobias about women being the source of cooties. Of course they don’t get that referring to a woman as “the little stripper that could” is demeaning, because women aren’t people. They are scary scary cootie bearers. To acknowledge that a cootie bearer could accomplish anything other than the spread of cooties is, in the 11 year old boy’s mind, pretty generous.

  14. SunlessNick says

    I’m not on a machine where I can hear what she said, but it looked like she was trying to laugh it off, which wasn’t good to watch; I’m glad she called him on it after all.

    I remember last year, Richard Gere doing something similar to Shilpa Shetty at an AIDS conference. For which she received as much criticism as he did, natch.

  15. says

    As far as Diablo Cody is concerned, it’s interesting comparing the reactions here to the ones at “Bound, Not Gagged.”
    http://deepthroated.wordpress.com/2008/02/25/the-first-sex-worker-to-win-an-oscar/
    I agree that playing up her status as a former stripper is a way of trying to minimize her achievements in some cases, (and also get people’s attention in order to sell papers, of course) but there is more than one way of looking at the situation.

  16. Cher says

    As far as the Garner thing goes the bothersome part is that the kiss was uninvited and on her neck instead of her cheek. Hugs and kisses seem to be the prevalent way that LA people in those settings greet one another so those are to be expected, however it got weird because Busey interrupted her interview, so she wasn’t expecting that, and either has bad aim or intentionally kissed her in an unexpected place.

    I honestly think it was just overzealousness on Busey’s part, not intended grossness and seems more like a social faux pas. Saying she got “felt up” and “sexually harrased” seems an overstatement based on what those phrases usually imply and what happened, but he should apologize to her for making her so visibly uncomfortable.

    In Cody’s case, the stripper thing doesn’t bother me because she uses that as a selling point and it’s something she owns, not something foisted upon her. If she isn’t embarrassed by being the “stripper turn screenwriter” then why should anyone else be on her behalf?

  17. sbg says

    I honestly think it was just overzealousness on Busey’s part, not intended grossness and seems more like a social faux pas. Saying she got “felt up” and “sexually harrased” seems an overstatement based on what those phrases usually imply and what happened, but he should apologize to her for making her so visibly uncomfortable.

    I have a problem dismissing behaviour like that because it was a “faux pas,” I guess. We don’t know what his motivations were, and if he butted right in while she was on an interview? That kind of goes beyond faux pas to me. To each her own.

    In Cody’s case, the stripper thing doesn’t bother me because she uses that as a selling point and it’s something she owns, not something foisted upon her. If she isn’t embarrassed by being the “stripper turn screenwriter” then why should anyone else be on her behalf?

    I’m not embarrassed for her. Who here has said that?

    To me, it’s that “look how far I’ve come!” vibe I get with the whole “little stripper that could” stuff. Like it’s such a bad thing to be a stripper, thank goodness she had talents in other areas or she’d have been stuck there forever. It’s an occupation many people choose and aren’t stuck with.

    She herself did it out of boredom, didn’t she? I’m not sure I agree she’s a good rep for the sex worker industry…

  18. says

    What we’re complaining about with Diablo Cody is not that she was a stripper, nor what she makes of having been a stripper. We are a media criticism site, so our concern is how the media is interpreting her having been a stripper. From what I’ve seen – and I admit I haven’t watched closely – I get the same sense SBG got: that they’re saying stripping is something she overcame.

    I also think that while her reasons for becoming a stripper were valid… somehow I can’t see the media embracing a less traditionally attractive sex worker or a prostitute quite the same way.

    As for Busey, he’s been in L.A. long enough to have the kissing rituals down pat. Everyone kisses and hugs you out here (as a girl from “back east”, it took some getting used to), but there is a definite protocol, and is Busey doesn’t know what it after spending decades in the film industry, then he’s incredibly stupid. The other possibility, of course, is that he’s a jerk who couches his crappy misbehaviors in a way that makes it hard to prove beyond “reasonable doubt” that it was intentional.

    For what it’s worth: locally, in the protective bubble of L.A. that never (conveniently) gets documented, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard of him being a jerk toward women.

  19. Gategrrl says

    Re: Diablo Cody – Admittedly, I haven’t read anything about her, or know of her except through here, but from what everyone is saying, she seems like a Hollywood female character trope come to life!

    I’m thinking of characters such as the Dancer/Chorus Girl, or the Gangster’s Moll (a former chorus girl, usually), or the Stripper (Sin City) etc etc etc ad infinitum and nauseum.

    Hollywood in general, and the entertainment along with it, tend to adore their tropes coming to life. It’s as if Life Follows Art; not that their living “characters” have any actual dimension apart from their fictional counterparts. It’s easier to write about the real life people as if they were a complete Hollywood creation – which, in the days of old during the studio system, they were.

    As for the Busey Spectacle, isn’t he a recovered addict of some sort or another (or unrecovered?). That he behaves like this at a black tie event like this doesnt surprise me. I haven’t heard what Betacandy has heard about him, but you don’t have to live in LA to know he’s got a sort of fuck-up reputation to begin with. Or am I thinking of someone else…?

  20. Jennifer Kesler says

    He has had addiction problems, yes. I’m not sure where he’s at with recovery. He’s done some crazy stuff over the years – nearly died in a motorcycle accident where he didn’t have a helmet on, etc.

    IMDB mentions “Arrested and released on bail after a fight with his wife, Tiani Warden. [25 January 1999]” which corresponds with some of the gossip I’ve heard, so I’ll just leave it at that.

  21. scarlett says

    OK, it was me who brought Diablo Coby into it so I’ll clarify: I read half a dozen articles about the Oscars from several different websites (and one paper) and they were all introducing her as ‘former stripper and Oscra-winning screenwriter Diablo Coby’. I couldn’t see that they’d work in her former line of work if she’d been an architch, a police officer, a teacher, whatever. It seemed like it was a point made only to titilate and came across a bit demeaning to her.

    But I really don’t know how much of it Coby herself has promoted because she takes pride in what she’s accomplished for herself, which would put a different spin on things: the industry referring to an Oscar-winning writer as a former stripped vs a woman who takes pride in her accomplishments.

  22. mrs.g. says

    So…Entertainment Weekly’s my little guilty pleasure, but I felt fairly satisfied by this poll result: 87% thought Gary Busey’s actions were creepier than Javier Bardem’s character in No Country for Old Men. I’m sure the poll from EW was meant to be funny, but still: Eighty. Seven. Percent. That’s a pretty honkin’ vast majority!

  23. sbg says

    Yes, as I saw more blurbs about this incident, I was happy to see more often than not it was reported more to highlight how inappropriate Busey’s behavior was.

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