A lot of people I’m not going to link to find it hard to believe that women fear men, that we worry that a man we don’t know well might be from that small minority who’d kill us to preserve his ego. They find it especially hard to believe any woman would ever submit to sex she doesn’t want for fear that if she says no, he’ll use violence to rape her anyway.
So share your stories in this thread. If you don’t want to use your usual handle, feel free to post under another name or “anonymous” or something safe. [ETA: don't use an email address that has your Gravatar attached! Just make up a phony email, it's okay.] You can also share stories others have told you. I just want a big collection of these so people have a page to point to whenever the questions arise.