I’ve been enjoying Alas, A Blog lately. Its threads have the sort of incredibly respectful but vigorous debates I hope to get going on this site someday. Any article’s good, but here’s a particularly interesting one on a blogger who feels if she gained weight after having kids, it would be unfair to her husband – a sort of false advertising.
Kameron Hurley writes about how writing comes before men for her. How scandalous. I mean, men have been encouraged to put career first for decades, but how very odd for women to do it. The only career women are supposed to put ahead of their men is children. Here’s a thought: maybe no individual should look toward other people to fulfill him or her. Maybe everyone should have some kind of life quest or passion to take care of their fulfillment needs, and then the people in their lives could just be there for love. What an idea.
The Happy Feminist explains the Debra Lafave rape case better than I can.
Stereotypes about how a young boy should react to sex with an adult woman are the direct result of old-fashioned patriarchal views regarding gender relations….The fact that Lafave is being held responsible to any extent is due to the rise of feminist mores in our culture.
I’ll just add that I’m also bothered by the “lucky boy” mantra I’m hearing in comments ’round the web. The idea seems to be that a boy can’t be raped by an attractive woman. Guess that pairs nicely with the attitude that a sexually active woman can’t be raped by a man, because she likes sex so much. I know statutory rape is slightly different. But so is incest: molestors don’t always physically coerce child victims. Often, they use emotional and mental manipulation to make them capitulate, and the victim thinks he actually wanted the relationship. That’s why we have the laws we have: because fourteen-year-olds are generally no mental/emotional match for adults.
And I wonder how this case would have gone if Lafave was unattractive.
Hugo Schwyzer is proof that God, should He be found to exist, might actually love and appreciate the women He created. Hugo’s a Christian Feminist, and his perspective is well worth reading. Check out his latest entry on how the shame girls once felt about menstruation and masturbation hasn’t died: it’s just morphed into shame about small breasts and pudgy parts. Check out the mention of 20th century Western female genital mutilation, too.