I just watched an episode of Friends, and please, God, give me that half hour of my life back.

Basically, Rachel tells Ross she’s slept with four or five men while he’s slept with two women (including her). He freaks out that she had ‘wild animal sex’ with someone and feels deeply insecure. She reassures him that they have something much better than wild, animal sex; a connection, camaraderie.

To hender reverse the situation: how many scenarios have we seen where … READ MORE

After reading comments and a couple of email responses about my Ross and Rachel article, I thought of an additional point to make (or another way to make the same point, I suppose, which is that it’s a male privilege to think the relationship is all or nothing). One of the emails pointed out that women can also define relationships as all or nothing, which is absolutely true. But I think much depends on what it is you’re asking for … READ MORE

Yesterday something reminded me of the Friends season in which Rachel wanted to “take a break” from her relationship from Ross, and Ross interpreted it as a break-up (or so he said after immediately having sex with another woman). The rest of the friends were about evenly split on whether Ross’ interpretation was valid or not. At the time, I thought Ross was wrong and an asshole, but didn’t bother to analyze it.

But thinking about it yesterday (after three years … READ MORE