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TeamLiquid boyz and “attention whores”

by Jennifer Kesler on September 18, 2010

In response to our recent story on Sexual harassment for female players in Starcraft2 thread, reader mOnion commented:

I have an incriminating recording of one of the mods from the site saying to a young lady “bitch make me a sandwiche, I’m busy playing starcraft”

if you’d like a copy of the .mp3 just followup this comment

I was skeptical, because, you know, how do you get a sound recording of something an online admin said? It struck me as far-fetched, but I wanted to see where it went, so I emailed mOnion with what I suspected a plant would consider the proper amount of enthusiasm:

Hi there,

I’d love to hear your MP3 of the moderator you mentioned on The Hathor Legacy. Do you have any way to authenticate it – prove that it’s who you say it is, and all that? Because I would not mind taking these guys on if I had the right ammo. :)

mOnion wrote back describing difficulty finding the Mp3 because “its buried amongst my music and porn sry”.

Today one of the TeamLiquid forum admins emailed me a screenshot of my email to mOnion, presumably for the purpose of intimidating me into silence. But the screenshot just proves that mOnion was indeed a plant trying to get a response that would cast doubt on my trustworthiness. As I described in the original article, attempts to cast doubt on the veracity of women seems to be the standard TeamLiquid method for silencing them. The possibility that a poster claiming to be a woman might be a man or an “attention whore” (see the original article) concerns them greatly. The possibility that a poster claiming to be a man might be a woman doesn’t even rate a glance, as evidenced by the number of women at both TeamLiquid and my original story claiming to use exactly that strategy to avoid being harassed endlessly.

I suspect if mOnion and the admin had gotten the “incriminating” response mOnion hoped for, they’d have just posted it on their forum and ripped me to shreds – and fair enough, actually. But I know a thing or two about both journalism and trolls. I asked for authentication and gave no hint I’d move forward with anything about the mp3 unless I got authentication. That’s a higher standard of journalism than the mainstream press bothers with these days. My story was comprised of quotes from the TeamLiquid forum, which all of you can go verify for yourselves unless they delete or edit the thread, and some clearly demarcated non-factual opinion commentary. And yet the TeamLiquid admin’s email calls the story a “hack job” lacking “much needed context” and invites me to a public debate somewhere other than my site because he won’t have his side of the story “edited or deleted.”

mOnion posted a derogatory lie about TeamLiquid on Hathor, and TeamLiquid thinks we’ve wronged them.

Before the admin triumphantly posts a screenshot of my email response to him, yawn, here it is:

And why do you think I asked mOnion to authenticate? Because I had wondered from the start where one obtained a sound recording of an admin who probably lives a thousand miles away saying anything. And you guys worry about women being liars.

So this kind of half-ass deception is how you guys handle things, yet you think by simply quoting your site (facts) and sharing a clearly non-factual interpretation of them, I’ve somehow wronged you?

Rich. Very rich. The story is perfectly valid, and you know it. You are tolerating misogyny publicly on your website, but indicate it’s unfair for anyone to point it out publicly? But I should trust you to engage in a public debate? Gee, I think that would be unwise on my part. ;)

When you’re reporting on sexism, one thing you never have to do is make stuff up, because there’s so much of the real deal available. TeamLiquid has the legal right to tolerate misogyny and even rape jokes on their forum because women are not recognized as a group against whom “hate crimes” may be committed in the USA. But other sites certainly have the right to criticize TeamLiquid.

This elaborate (though not very convincing) little ruse from the boyz at TeamLiquid raises an interesting irony: while they’re busy worrying that every poster claiming to be a straightforward woman/girl who games might not be what she seems, these guys are proving themselves liars and deceivers.

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 7:58 am

I’ve decided to let this one through since these guys feel it’s so unfair I mod their comments.

First off: PIX PLZ! I BET UR UGLY@!

In addition, this was not a set up, as monion is not a staff member.

Doesn’t matter. You used what he gave you, thus making yourself complicit in his actions, which were those of a liar.

I offered to give you a platform to discuss the issues on my website.

Let’s see. In all your comments and emails, you’ve shown absolutely no desire whatsoever to consider the possibility you are wrong. Now, why would I waste my valuable time trying to argue with people under those conditions? Been there, done that, got the “Argh, nobody gained anything!” t-shirt.

The conclusion I drew from your refusal to discuss the issue in public and from your writings and the comments on this site is that you are more interested in tabloid writing than actually advancing what you believe in.

Translation: “If you aren’t willing to discuss it on my forum where we tolerate widespread sexual harassment of women who aren’t even voicing unpopular opinions, you must not be serious.” And yet, if I did wander over and subject myself to the sexual harassment TeamLiquid allows at their forums, what do you suppose would happen? They’d call me an attention whore and make fun of how stupid I was to come to their forum, knowing how they’d treat me.

And no, there is no point coming back with reassurances I’d be treated with respect. You guys don’t know what respect is.

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The Other Patrick (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 8:55 am

Hey Manifesto,

I want to see your cock.

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Dom Camus (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 8:59 am

Create the debate thread anyway. It’s about the issue, not specific participants, right?

(I might even come and join in if you’re lucky!)

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sbg (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 9:30 am

Wow, special.

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 11:54 am

Oh, also, since the bullshit seems to know no bounds with these losers: their site does not get significantly more traffic than Hathor. They’re about the same. Check Quantcast, an independent third party that doesn’t give a shit about either site:

http://www.quantcast.com/thehathorlegacy.com
http://www.quantcast.com/teamliquid.net

I don’t even know where the remark about their site having considerably more traffic came from. Wishful thinking?

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Pai (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 1:54 pm

I assume it’s because they are under the impression that feminists (and female geeks) are such a tiny fringe group that they assume that any site or blog dedicated to the topic must be a niche thing?

Newsflash for TeamLiquid: 40% of gamers are women, and a lot of us are tired of taking crap from guys like you. Expect to be called out for it.

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sbg (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 3:20 pm

Bloated ego? ;)

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 27, 2010 at 5:30 pm

Ah, they’re using Alexa, which is famously unreliable and easy to game. Anyone who takes webmastering seriously (or even owns multiple sites) knows this. They seem to think I am completely stupid. Oh, that’s right – I’m a woman.

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Lika (like) (flag)
September 28, 2010 at 12:35 pm

And yet, if I did wander over and subject myself to the sexual harassment TeamLiquid allows at their forums, what do you suppose would happen? They’d call me an attention whore and make fun of how stupid I was to come to their forum, knowing how they’d treat me.

Good point. I wouldn’t be surprised if they did, and I’m glad you didn’t fall for that. That was an awesome reply you wrote.

Why do they need you to go over there anyways? If they can’t be “educated” from reading your posts here, why do they think that having you there will make it clearer? You stated really clearly what the problem here.

And this bit of his comment:

I was surprised that someone who is apparently so passionate about her beliefs would not take the opportunity to talk on a platform many many times the size of this website,

Can we call this privilege? “Hey Lady, mine is bigger and better than yours, but I’m willing to share part of it with you, so why aren’t you doing your duty to educate us?”

The entitlement is mind-boggling.

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Lika (like) (flag)
September 28, 2010 at 12:42 pm

LMAO!!! The “many times the size” comment was what me snort in the first place, so now that it turned out to be bullshit, I’m cracking up here.

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 28, 2010 at 2:44 pm

The last few comments I’ve deleted have been bent on proving their site is bigger. I really wouldn’t expect anything else, so whatever. But it begs the question: if they have so many more readers than I have, why do they care what we say? They’re actually not saying anything to indicate an interest in being educated, even if that was an acceptable demand, yet they want me to come over there. Odd, isn’t it? ;)

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 28, 2010 at 2:50 pm

Just fyi, here was the part of his comment directed toward you. The comment was not approved because it contained strawmen arguments and some other violations of the comment guideline, which none of these guys indicate they ever read. But this section was okay:

@ Dom Camus: I disagree. It absolutely matters who is involved. Not only has Jennifer written two pieces about our site, on the about page of this website it states “The one thing we all have in common is the belief that media can help people change their thinking. Our media is the internet.” If this is true, why would you not embrace the chance to use the internet to illuminate people on your point of view? In addition, surely Jennifer can give a better account of the issues than I could. Discussing an issue before the lecture seems rather counter-intuitive.

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DragonLord (like) (flag)
September 28, 2010 at 3:26 pm

Oh cool, they’ve updated it :) I haven’t been back to look at that for a year or so…

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Dom Camus (like) (flag)
September 28, 2010 at 11:42 pm

Thanks for taking the trouble… I’m a little disappointed, but I suppose the Team Liquid mods would feel embarrassed starting such a thread themselves.

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 29, 2010 at 8:04 am

Just adding one more thing here. There have been a number of comments from the TL guys which we have modded. We modded them because they violated our commenting guidelines, which are linked from just above the comment box. At no point have any of these guys said anything to suggest they bothered to read the comment policy.

They have expressed a lot of confusion about why their comments were modded, with remarks like “I wasn’t attacking anyone.” I guess that’s the extent of their mod policy, and they assume it follows them everywhere online.

The specific violations have included strawman arguments (like accusing me of thinking all TL people think alike, when my first article specifically noted that the thread went on to contain great arguments against the sexual harassment), being off-topic and lots of things you can read about at Derailing for Dummies.

The level of entitlement involved in coming to a site, ignoring the comment policy that’s clearly posted, and then complaining about your comments not getting posted – see, that’s the sort of thing that puts one right off further engaging with some people.

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Cinnabar (like) (flag)
September 29, 2010 at 9:32 am

Jennifer, you have the patience of a saint. If I ever see you in person, I will fall at your feet in worship. :)

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Maria (like) (flag)
September 29, 2010 at 11:49 am

ANNNNNNNNNNNNNND continuing to post to a site where you’re not getting posted to complain about not getting posted? Somebody’s going out of their way to garner attention! :eye roll:

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Pai (like) (flag)
September 29, 2010 at 5:29 pm

BUT THAT’S CENSORSHIP!!!11eleven!

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Pai (like) (flag)
September 29, 2010 at 5:41 pm

“If this is true, why would you not embrace the chance to use the internet to illuminate people on your point of view?”

…Isn’t that exactly what the Hathor Legacy website is currently doing? Am I missing something here?

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 29, 2010 at 9:27 pm

I certainly thought so! I guess it doesn’t count unless it happens at their forum…?

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SunlessNick (like) (flag)
September 30, 2010 at 7:22 am

Or maybe it’s not proper “illumination” unless you allow yourself to be lit up like a target. Gee, why ever would you pass on that chance?

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
September 30, 2010 at 7:58 am

Because I’m not the attention whore in this situation? Just a thought. ;)

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The Other Patrick (like) (flag)
September 30, 2010 at 8:51 am

By the arbitrary rules of that scene, I’m sure you could be called exactly that for wanting “them” to go to “your” site. In order not to be an attention whore, you are supposed to be as meek and passive as possible, and even then you’re probably just calling your exquisite submission to attention.

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Shnyker (like) (flag)
October 3, 2010 at 11:10 am

This sort of stuff makes me sick. Seriously I can’t even begin to fathom it. I play a TON of TF2 and used to play a lot of gmod as well, there was a handful of females in the gmod server I administrated for and there are a lot more on my favorite TF2 server, and I know that if anyone started harassing them they’d see a banhammer and stars far quicker than they counted on.

I mean, I guess I’m just a nicer guy than those teamliquid losers but still, it boggles the mind.

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Nick Stevens (like) (flag)
October 3, 2010 at 4:31 pm

Yeah, having been a gamer for pretty much my whole life and now being the proud father of a one year old daughter I find myself even more concerned than I was before. See I subscribe to the view that Geeks are my tribe and gaming is my sub-culture within and therefore I naturally want to try and impart that onto my daughter but what on Earth do I say to prepare her for this crap if she does take an interest? I certainly don’t want her to have to hide her gender.

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Jennifer Kesler (like) (flag)
October 3, 2010 at 9:41 pm

This article got linked by another prominent site recently, and that prompted lots of pro-TL people to come over and comment. Most of the comments called us whores, speculated we don’t have boyfriends (gasp!), and worse. Most of the rest complained about my refusal to go over to TL and educate the masses there. Listen up – I’m only sharing this once. Read this link from Derailing for Dummies, a facetious site teaching trolls how to derail threads (its actual purpose is to explain the many subtle forms of derailing tactics. In particular:

By insisting you can only learn if they right then and there sacrifice further hours of time going over the same ground they have so often in the past, you may also make them give up and go away altogether, enabling you to win by default.

This is the goal of the “Educate Me Or STFU” tactic. It’s extremely familiar to anyone speaking out against status quo inequality. Sharing this link is all the education I’m going to provide.

I used to spend hours trying to educate privileged people, and here’s what I learned. 9 out of 10 of the people who approach YOU for education on privilege instead of educating themselves (like we all have done around here) have no goal OTHER than to waste your time, and they think it’s hilarious that you’re “stupid” enough to do it while they’re just laughing at you, ha ha. If you let them waste your time, you are losing opportunities to further your own goals. From the same site linked above:

By demonstrating your belief that Marginalised People™ should immediately gratify your every whim, you remind them of their place in society. After all, they’re not there to live lives free of discrimination and in happy, independent and fulfilling ways! Please! Marginalised People™ exist for your curiosity and to make you generally feel better about your place in society and don’t let them forget it!

And we all know what the privileged tell us when we fail to achieve what we wanted to and claim privilege was a factor: “Well, you must’ve not spent your time and energy wisely.”

If TL’s goal was really to educate their people, they’d simply link to my post in a thread and ask people to consider and then respectfully debate the points. The fact that they haven’t – the fact that they have instead spent hours typing comments and emails demanding that I waste my time doing that – makes me seriously doubt education is what they’re looking for.

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Pai (like) (flag)
October 3, 2010 at 11:12 pm

It’s the typical sexist nerdrage tactic: attempt to silence criticism by aggressively spamming/flooding the opposition with verbal abuse and defensive ranting that avoids addressing the actual issue being talked about. It’s so predictable on their part it’s almost disappointing.

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coagulation (like) (flag)
October 4, 2010 at 12:54 am

so you have read 1984
and yet you still delete any opinion that doesn’t coincide with your own?

do you realize that your supporting crimethink.
the very notion orwell has tried to warn us about in his literature.
ministry of truth much?

its just too bad you wont let the good honest people at teamliquid state their views because they would tell you that not all of tl.net have problems interacting with women. I guess your not really as interested in equal rights as you claim.

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The Other Patrick (like) (flag)
October 4, 2010 at 1:01 am

Though I, sadly, do not have a boyfriend, so if one of the TL readers is interested, shoot me an email.

Never had a boyfriend, really, but if it’s that important, I’ll try it.

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Hmm-Hmm. (like) (flag)
October 4, 2010 at 2:55 am

Probably not, in the right places, though. That’s one of the things of the internet: things stick. They don’t get removed or erased rather easily.

And when it comes down to it, people who feel themselves attacked because they never learned how to properly treat other people and get called on it.. aren’t likely to comprehend they are in the wrong. They don’t want to admit it, I think. Even if the facts are plain as day. Could they learn? probably.. but probably not so easily on the internet. Better would be to start with finding how people pick such tendencies up and how to combat those as early as possible.

I do apologise if I’m having a few problems with my grammar and formulation right now. And if it’s about a month after, but I only just found out about this through the helpful chaps of rockpapershotgun.com

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