The Bachelor: Only If You Look Perfect

There are about 101 reasons to not like ABC’s The Bachelor, not the least of which that they’ve had one, count it, ONE season where the gender was flipped.

I have to say that at the top of my list of reasons is the fact that the whole premise is set up in such a make-believe way. The bachelor is always built up as this “dream man,” which any woman would love to love. He’s perfect, handsome, charming, usually rich, and is definitely looking for a committment. So, what better way to find a soul mate than to gather a group of pre-selected, beautiful women and gradually whittle down the competition on national television?

Above and beyond the sheer unbelievability of the scenario (yes, yes, there apparently have been some successes), what I find most annoying is the pre-selected women bit. You see, NOT just any woman has the chance to love the guy.

By choosing only women who are traditionally beautiful, who all look good in bikinis (I really do believe that is one of the things they use to select the women), etc., etc., the producers of the show are basically stating that if you do not meet the criteria (that is, you don’t look particularly good on TV), you will never be a dream man’s dream woman.

You might as well not even bother, for it’s impossible that fine catch would ever choose a woman who’s short, curvy, has less than perfect skin and would rather gouge her eyes out than prance around in a bikini even if that woman is amazing as a human being, at least not if she’s surrounded by thin, model-like women. ::rolls eyes::

Of course, the above scenario would never happen anyway. If I, for example,  submitted a video of myself explaining why I wanted to find the perfect mate, my submission would be dumped in the round file before even ten seconds of it was watched. Silly fat woman, you don’t even have the right to dream the same romantic dreams as thin women.

Comments

  1. Jennifer Kesler says

    He’s perfect, handsome, charming, usually rich, and is definitely looking for a committment.

    On a side note, do people still not realize how often someone with a serious mental problems can fit all that criteria and still prove to be an abusive or self-destructive nightmare of a mate? Guess not, if the viewers are buying this shit.

    The selection of only “bikini body” women also suggests that men are by nature so hopelessly shallow there’s really no hope of meaningful relationships between women and men, and we should just give up on the very institution the show is promoting.

  2. MaggieCat says

    Actually, there were 3 seasons of The Bachelorette- the first one with Trista Whatshername (the only person from any of these shows to ever actually get married, I believe), the woman who was from the season after Trista, and then that woman who famously refused to chose a guy in the last episode. (Heh, you can kind of tell I’ve never watched the show, merely the 9,543,619,983 commercials they used to run for it.)

    That’s not much considering that they’re currently working on season 10 of The Bachelor, but they did at least give it a bit of a try before realizing how crappy the ratings were.

  3. says

    It always mystifies me why the average American viewer can only identify with fake plastic-looking people. At least men are allowed some variety in appearance, but women who don’t look like Barbie Dolls are barely tolerated. This is so puzzling to me, because I personally tend to identify more with people who seem similar to me, and they’re pretty rare on network TV or hollywood movies.

    I don’t aspire to look like a Barbie doll, but even if I did, I think I’d still want to see more people like myself on the screen, because I could relate to them better. But after enough decades of seeing what’s popular on tv, I can only conclude I’m a freak.

  4. says

    See, I would much rather see regular looking people than dumb people on TV. These reality shows obviously do not select for brains or common sense. I can’t bring myself to care about people who never say anything interesting. Therefore I can’t watch for more than five minutes.

    This is not to say that traditionally beautiful people can’t be intelligent. But that’s sort of a pre-select too, isn’t it? Because most smart people are too smart to go on the show in the first place. So we get this bunch of shallow vapid people with the intellect and maturity of a bunch of teenagers. I think they want it that way, so the women won’t question the stupidity of the myth they’re being fed.

  5. Purtek says

    Silly fat woman, you don’t even have the right to dream the same romantic dreams as thin women.

    Well, of course not. Where on earth would you get that idea? Ugly Betty? Feminist propaganda pamphlets? ::rolls eyes so hard it may cause vomiting::

    This is all on top of the fact that even the tall, slim women are worthwhile only if they are willing to eradicate all other desires in order to get a man, and that this whole schtick is premised on Barbie dolls verbally scratching each other’s eyes out for that purpose.

  6. Jennifer Kesler says

    this whole schtick is premised on Barbie dolls verbally scratching each other’s eyes out for that purpose.

    Ew, I just got the most creepy visual of that. :D

  7. sbg says

    Duru Antilles said:

    Because most smart people are too smart to go on the show in the first place. So we get this bunch of shallow vapid people with the intellect and maturity of a bunch of teenagers. I think they want it that way, so the women won’t question the stupidity of the myth they’re being fed.

    What really cracks me up is the rare woman who’ll be on the show and express hesitation about the whole process. This always makes the bachelor doubt her reason for being there and demand some kind of overt show of her falling for him, instead of seeing it as a positive “this woman might have a good head on her shoulders” kind of thing.

    I mean, I’d be suspicious of anyone falling in love with me on the spot in real life, let alone when it’s all programmed and choreographed by TV producers.

  8. SunlessNick says

    This always makes the bachelor doubt her reason for being there and demand some kind of overt show of her falling for him, instead of seeing it as a positive “this woman might have a good head on her shoulders” kind of thing.

    But it’s dangerous when women think. If she questions the setup of the show, she might even question the worth of the Batchelor himself, and that would herald a plague of frogs.

    That would be a cool thing to happen in show though – not the plague of frogs, I mean, though that might be too – but one of the contestants deciding Mr B isn’t worth the effort and quitting.

  9. sbg says

    On a side note, do people still not realize how often someone with a serious mental problems can fit all that criteria and still prove to be an abusive or self-destructive nightmare of a mate? Guess not, if the viewers are buying this shit.

    I dated the perfect guy once. After several months, it became apparent to me that someone who drank heavily and was obsessed in knowing my every move might not actually be quite as perfect as I had thought… Heh.

  10. sbg says

    Actually, there were 3 seasons of The Bachelorette- the first one with Trista Whatshername (the only person from any of these shows to ever actually get married, I believe), the woman who was from the season after Trista, and then that woman who famously refused to chose a guy in the last episode. (Heh, you can kind of tell I’ve never watched the show, merely the 9,543,619,983 commercials they used to run for it.)

    Whoops. Clearly it’s not on my must see list. As far as I’m concerned right now Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday are simply roadblocks that hinder me from getting to Thursday faster.

    But that’s another story.

  11. sbg says

    That would be a cool thing to happen in show though – not the plague of frogs, I mean, though that might be too – but one of the contestants deciding Mr B isn’t worth the effort and quitting.

    I don’t watch the show faithfully, but while there are the women who become in love instantly, there are those who are very practical about it, departing with an “oh, well, I had to try…”

    Which isn’t the same thing, but it’s nice to see when they don’t get all weepy after spending ONE week with the guy (and a houseful of other beautiful women).

    And don’t get me started on the squickiness that is the “fantasy suite” the final three women have the good fortune of experiencing. Personally, I find it kind of offputting to watch the dude have “overnight dates” with all three of the final women.

  12. SunlessNick says

    Personally, I find it kind of offputting to watch the dude have “overnight dates” with all three of the final women. - sbg

    Holy crap! As in, I’m going to have sex with the three of you, and will marry the one that pleases me the most? How in hell do they make that sound romantic?

  13. Gategrrl says

    If that’s fact, and all the women sleep with the men, wow, makes him a man-slut. As for the women who agree to sleep with him one by one in a row, would make me question how in hell he could trust them, and the women trust HIM?

    How could anyone “fall in love” in this situation? Needy people only?

  14. Jennifer Kesler says

    I still say it’s all scripted. Not full-on, but loosely. Even the aftermath is probably all PR stunt. There are so many people in this town who’ll do anything to be in front of a camera (and yeah, for a lot of them “needy” would be the word).

  15. sbg says

    SunlessNick said:

    Holy crap! As in, I’m going to have sex with the three of you, and will marry the one that pleases me the most? How in hell do they make that sound romantic?

    They don’t as far as I’m concerned! ;)

  16. sbg says

    Gategrrl said:

    If that’s fact, and all the women sleep with the men, wow, makes him a man-slut. As for the women who agree to sleep with him one by one in a row, would make me question how in hell he could trust them, and the women trust HIM?

    They never show anything, really, but it’s HEAVILY implied that he’s bonking any woman who does choose to spend the night with him. And I have never been able to figure out why a woman would say yes, knowing that the same scenario had played or was going to play out with two other women. O.o

    The ONE time I saw a woman decline…she was sent home at the next “rose ceremony.”

    Ugh. I feel dirty for admitting I watch this when I’m bored.

  17. sbg says

    I still say it’s all scripted. Not full-on, but loosely. Even the aftermath is probably all PR stunt. There are so many people in this town who’ll do anything to be in front of a camera (and yeah, for a lot of them “needy” would be the word).

    It sure ain’t reality.

  18. Jennifer Kesler says

    No wonder you feel dirty – isn’t boinking on command more an element of porn or prostitution than romance?

  19. sbg says

    No wonder you feel dirty – isn’t boinking on command more an element of porn or prostitution than romance?

    One would think.

  20. Pat says

    Well, if they used fat women ratings would plummet because most (all?) people do not find fat people attractive or desirable to look at. Pretty simple, really. Also, the fantasy they are selling is a woman’s fantasy. If they wanted the equivalent program for men it would probably focus on a studly dude’s quest for the hottest, sluttiest hook up he could find.

    That’s life.

  21. sbg says

    The Bachelor’s all set for a new season, with “the hottest bachelor ever!!1!”

    And I still hate this meat marke…er, show.

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