The Bachelor: The Not-So-Nice Nice Guy

You’d be proud of me, THL readers! I did not watch this season of The Bachelor, a show which I find really upsetting on several fronts. It was difficult for me to avoid the hype, especially since this year’s bachelor, Jason Mesnick, is from the Seattle area* and so am I.

I did watch the After the Final Rose show, which ABC pimped as being truly the most dramatic ending to this show, ever. I just had to see what was up.

They gave us a recap of the season, showing Jason sobbing his eyes out and basically being really torn about being in love with two women. This is, I presume, supposed to be evidence of what a Nice Guy he is – he’s been touted as such everywhere, and it was this Nice Guy status that prompted ABC to focus on him after he got jilted by DeAnna Pappas last year. She allowed him to get on his knee and ask for her hand before she broke it to him. Harsh, right? Keep this in mind.

So, he weighed his decision, after weeks of culling through a collection of hand-selected beautiful women. The final two were apparently like day and night. He ended up choosing Melissa. He was certain he’d made the right call. They were happy. Ecstatic. The other woman, Molly, was heartbroken and told Jason he’d made a mistake.

Cut to the After the Final Rose show and what do we get? Jason wibbling some more and admitting that things “changed” in how he felt about his prize (ugh) Melissa. They’d spent the holidays together, and he just couldn’t shake the feeling something wasn’t right. He and Melissa had conversations, etc.

Here’s where Mr. Nice Guy loses major points. Instead of dealing with this change of heart in private, Mesnick waited until they were on national television, with the frigging host of the “reality” show sitting right there to tell her he doesn’t love her, that he made a mistake and should have chosen Molly.

Uhm, yeah. That makes DeAnna letting him get on his knee look like cake. What truly nice guy would allow it to go down that way? I know it was all staged – hell, Melissa could’ve known what was coming. BUT THAT DOES NOT CHANGE HOW UNCOOL IT WAS. I don’t care how many tears the guy sheds, that is truly awful. Now this poor woman has to watch this plastered all over the entertainment news. Like it’s actually entertaining to see someone hurt so badly.

Oh, and after Melissa was ushered off, incredibly confused, angry and hurt, the show brought out Molly, to whom Mesnick professed his interest in seeing where they could go. She looked shellshocked for a minute, asked about Melissa and then … basically said sure, she still loved him.

headdeskheaddeskheaddeskheaddeskheaddesk

Maybe I can’t judge, having not seen the whole thing, but I can’t help but think Mr. Mesnick is a Nice Guy, not a genuinely nice guy at all.

*I say Seattle area, because Kirkland is not Seattle.

Comments

  1. Robin says

    See, this is why I can’t stand to watch “romance”-based reality shows.

    Well, okay, that and the fact that one of the news magazines did an expose about how the contestants are left alone in a room with alcohol and no food for hours before they bring in the bachelor(ette) and start filming. Basically, they’re all drunk the whole time so that they’ll be more emotional for the camera. Not only is it staged, it’s manufactured. Ick.

  2. sbg says

    Well, okay, that and the fact that one of the news magazines did an expose about how the contestants are left alone in a room with alcohol and no food for hours before they bring in the bachelor(ette) and start filming. Basically, they’re all drunk the whole time so that they’ll be more emotional for the camera. Not only is it staged, it’s manufactured. Ick.

    I’ll second that. I’m under no illusions that this in any way represents reality, but that is simply despicable.

  3. Daomadan says

    It gets worse. I hang out on the TWOP forums and supposedly the final show wasn’t a surprise for a lot of people because there were confirmed rumors that Jason hadn’t been seen with Melissa, but with Molly during the months before the show aired.

    I just hope his son is okay with all of this tv drama.

    Ugh, I hate Nice Guys ™.

  4. sbg says

    The whole thing, whether orchestrated or not (I’m leaning toward the former, there), just reeks. You’d think something that started out being rather low couldn’t possibly sink further, and then they pull this kind of stunt.

    And it works. The buzz was disproportionately large.

  5. DragonLadyK says

    Wow. This is making me nostalgic for the days of a man needing to ask his intended’s father for permission to ask her. Which I didn’t actually think was possible. o.0

    DragonLady

  6. Casey says

    This is the reason that when it comes to romance-based reality shows, I only watch utter garbage like Flavor of Love/Rock of Love/Daisy of Love/I Love New York/Real Chance at Love, because at least those shows make no bones about being fake and phony and trashy…it’s a guilty pleasure. I could never enjoy the Bachelor/ette.

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