Weddings, Marriage and Babies – Oh My!

There are four five myths TV and film seem determined to push, and over the next few days, I’m going to take a light-hearted look at each of them in detail. And not necessarily in this order (being female, and therefore prone to change my mind on a whim):

• All females have elaborate fantasies about their wedding days.
• All women want to get married, and will eventually pressure their poor boyfriends about it.
• All women feel at least some urge to have babies at some point.
• All women have maternal instincts.
• All women would hands down prefer to watch a romantic comedy over any other type of movie or TV show, or The Chick Flick Myth. (Added May 9, by request of Firebird.)

If you’re female, and one or more of these aren’t true of you, it’s okay: you’re not alone. You’re not a freak. TV and film may be determined to bury all indication of your existence in a deep, deep hole, but what do they know? TV spent its first 15+ years in denial that married couples share a bed. How can you believe anything it tells you?

Comments

  1. firebird says

    Hey, I’d like to suggest another stereotypical myth: all women would hands down prefer to watch a romantic comedy over any other type of movie or TV show. Unless I’m the only woman whose first choice is a horror movie and then, (in order) sci-fi or really good fantasy, action, history, or adventure movie, and to whom romantic comedy is about equal with stupid comedy – oh, wait, I think Anger Management might rank higher than How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days – I laughed through Anger Management twice and lost interest in How to Lose a Guy in thirty minutes. If I stand alone, then I guess I’ll just keep seeing movies with the guys and making dates happy (if I ever get any more that is – maybe I ought to make some poor guy take me to see a *romantic comedy*). :-)

    Firebird

  2. firebird says

    I’ve always hoped that I could a) skip the traditional wedding (except for the old english vows – “and thereto I plight thee my troth”) and just do a quiet ceremony in simple clothing with only a few witnesses or b) dress all my bridesmaids in rainbow colors and wear a bright red dress. Bleah, weddings. I do want to get married though. :-) It has always seemed like the busyness and the stress and the details tend to distract from rather than add to the seriousness of the commitment being made, and that simplicity would be better beginning for the adventure of a lifetime.

    Firebird

  3. Jennifer Kesler says

    Oooh, good one. I’ve added it to the list, and I totally agree with you. I’ve never liked the films/shows I was “supposed” to, as a female. Then again, I never liked cartoons when I was a kid – personal taste is just that: personal. Not assigned to groups at large.

    I like your wedding ideas, and particularly your point about the wedding being a distraction from the act of getting married. I definitely think that happens.

  4. Ray says

    Yes… I think I would like to get married some day, but if I think of “My Ideal Wedding” ever, it would probably involve both of us in a simple robe or something else without quite so much baggage as the traditional wear.

  5. Maria V. says

    I think my ideal marriage would involve a trip to Vegas. Yeah, you’d lose out on the registry items (I think Dear Abby says you can’t get gifts if you elope) but I think it’d be cool to have it spontaneous, fast, and organized by somebody else.

  6. says

    Vegas is awesome. I wanted the Elvis impersonator (hey, it was *Vegas*!) but my now-husband would have none of that. ;-) There are experienced Justice of the Peaces there, too.

  7. Anemone says

    “TV spent its first 15+ years in denial that married couples share a bed.”

    I think a fair number of couples did sleep in twin beds before the Pill. I know my parents did. They only started sleeping in the same bed after we all moved out.

  8. sbg says

    I think a fair number of couples did sleep in twin beds before the Pill. I know my parents did. They only started sleeping in the same bed after we all moved out.

    I’m no prude, but I could totally get down with the two-bed sleeping arrangement. I simply cannot get a good night’s rest without being able to roll anywhere I want without having to worry about my partner’s limbs getting in my way. Yes to the sex, no to the cuddling. Cuddling is only good in the waking hours. ;)

  9. Sel says

    *raises hand*

    I’d rather be shot in the head than watch a romantic comedy – at least it would be a fast death!

    *checks that she’s still got the girl cooties*

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