I am adding a new rule to the commenting guidelines for all Hathor sites. It bans the use of any gender essentialist arguments in comments.
Gender essentialism is the assumption that women are naturally like this, while men are naturally like that, and nature made it so and anyone who deviates from that pattern is a freak. Most commonly it comes in the form of “women are naturally submissive and men are naturally dominant”.
This is an absolutely unprovable statement. It is an opinion, not a fact. Look at the amount of gender conditioning we receive from infancy: different colors for girls and boys (in some cultures), commercials proclaiming boys like toy guns and trucks while girls like dollies that pee. Throughout life, we are punished for deviating from our cultural gender norms, and yet very few people find it easy to avoid those deviations.
If it’s so natural, why all the conditioning?
You can, of course, hold the opinion that nature makes people a certain way and there’s just something wrong with women who don’t desperately want to submit to a man, or with men who cry or hug male friends, with women who don’t like dresses and makeup, with men who rather enjoy wearing eyeliner. You just can’t say any of it on this site.
Why? Because we don’t have time for you. We don’t have time to argue with every one of you who comes on here stating his opinions as fact. I realize gender essentialism is largely accepted as fact by most people in casual conversations. I do understand why you think you are entitled to say these things. I’m just telling you: not here. Comments stating gender essentialist views as fact will be deleted, disemvoweled, struck-through, or whatever strikes the admin’s fancy.
Thank you for understanding. Oh, and the same goes for any statements that certain races of people share certain traits, or orientations, etc. For pity’s sake, even common society no longer accepts sweeping statements about race the way it does about gender. I shouldn’t even have to mention it, but of course, it’s happened before.