In various threads, we’ve had some discussion about whether women can naturally be as perverted as men are. For example, can a psychologically healthy woman enjoy sleeping around the way men do? Why do we brand her “lacking in self-esteem” or “slut”, while men engaging in the same behavior are viewed as perfectly normal for their gender? Does having a penis really make your sexual behavior different?
Or is it the sense of entitlement that goes with having that penis?
Living in Los Angeles, and having worked around some of the people I’ve worked around, I’ve been aware of a number of women born to wealth, privilege and a sense of their families being above the law, who pursue sex very much the way horny guys in bars do. They pick up guys they find hot, then love ’em and leave ’em. They say they’ll call again, but they don’t. They juggle several boyfriends at a time, and if any of the boyfriends are unlucky enough to think they were exclusive, the women just shrug and say, “We never said that, did we?” In short, rich, privileged women often treat men just the way womanizers treat women. I guess you could call them “manizers”? Or can we call women “players”?
Because no one will ever call these rich women sluts. Or if they do, they can’t hurt her. She’s at no risk of losing a job or public status. Her money and family name entitle her to behave any way she likes. Mummy and Daddy may not approve, but they’ll keep that disapproval within the family. And if her behavior has consequences, money and power ensure there will always be a way to fix it up nicely in the end.
And there’s that word: “entitle”. Even the lowest of men is entitled to go to a bar and see if he can pick up chicks, no strings attached, without risking public censure if anyone finds out about it later (excluding situations in which the man is, say, married or works for a religious organization). Men are entitled to behave like this because our patriarchal society has entitled them to it, and by and large, we all buy into it. Women are not entitled to behave this way. Women who sleep around risk a loss of respect from anyone who finds out: the boss, the person who’s approving her mortgage, her family, her friends. Even a future husband.
But rich and powerful people – that top 5% that uses 25% of the earth’s resources – live above the patriarchy. Women in that subset are entitled by money and status to sleep around any way they see fit. There may be tabloid gossip about it for the lower 95% to bitch at cathartically, but why would any member of the top 5% care what we peons think of them? None of our disapproval can touch them in any meaningful way.
The only biological factor that could inherently impact a woman’s sexual attitudes is the possibility of rape or other violence. Since men make up something like 98% of our violent prison population, obviously an informed woman must realize that sleeping with strangers puts her at greater risk than a man puts himself at sleeping with strange women. But does this preclude a woman from engaging in the stereotypically male behaviors of cultivating multiple boyfriends, or dumping a man as soon as she’s gotten the sex she came for? No. And do women have inherent desires to do these perverted things? The entitled ones often do.