I just got back from a family wedding – my youngest sister tied the proverbial knot on Saturday.
Prior to my departure, I noticed an alarming trend of reactions from friends, coworkers and random strangers when they learned I was traveling to my younger sister’s wedding. All said and told, I think the reactions can be categorized into 3 types:
Sympathy: You know what I’m talking about. The “Oh, your younger sister? How sad for you, being older and still unmarried having to watch a younger female wed.” kind of reaction that no one ever says out loud, but makes clear by the sad, soft look in the eyes as they look upon you.
What’s Wrong With YOU?: Yeah. The “Holy crap, your younger sister’s getting married before you? What the heck is wrong with you?” reactions are delightful. I actually had someone say it very blatantly to me, making me pretty indignant…which was probably interpreted as me being bitter or defensive and not as the “I’m quite happy being single, thanks” that it was.
No, Really, It’s Okay To Be Single: I got my hair trimmed before my trip, and I told the stylist I didn’t want to go too much because I had a wedding to attend and didn’t want to mess with a drastic change. This led, of course, to her inquiry about whose wedding. When she found out it was my little sister’s, she proceeded to assure me over and over, using various different anecdotes and stories that it was just fine to remain single. This left me with the impression that she really was trying to issue sympathy, not support (which I don’t need, btw).
Does this happen to men? If a guy’s younger brother is getting married before he does, are they made to feel there is something wrong with them because of it or is this an occurrence that happens strictly to women? I wonder why it’s so easy for people to assume a single woman would be hurt, depressed and/or concerned because someone else is getting married.
Please tell me it really is 2006.